I’m not sure why I feel the need to write this post, I guess I don’t, but it’s almost following on from my previous Perfect V Reality. We have nothing to defend, yet I feel that it’s time I put my personal opinion across based around the internet and that darn word, perfect.
When I started Little Winter, I was sure to point out in my first post that we aren’t perfect, we’re just normal people who do normal things. We argue about the washing pile, we pick our noses like kids and we certainly don’t live a lavish lifestyle. I mean, it’s incredibly lovely and humble that people think that we live in a beautiful world because ‘our kitchen is perfect’, but in reality, we are just like you and the rest of the world. It’s so easy for us all to take things for granted and although we haven’t lived a tough life compared to others, we too have suffered and lost only what we can deem the hardest we know. And with these heartaches and sadness, it has taught us to appreciate the simplest things. Those things that are standing right in front of us, so easily forgotten, yet things that really do make the world go round. I’d like to think that we don’t always portray the perfect life on our blog, Twitter, Instagram and in fact, show the beauty of those simple things that we take for granted. I’d like to think that you can see we’re just your average Joe’s and don’t go out every weekend with hoards of friends, we don’t lay in swamps of money and we don’t think we’ve got the best life ever. We just make our average life the best it can be.
I’m not a ‘pretty’ girl, I never have been nor will I ever. And I’m also not one of those hot girls, but I am a girl. I have my flaws and insecurities just like everyone else. The images that you see of me on my blog are few and far inbetween. You don’t see my face all the time, because reality is that I don’t look like that all the time. I do what you probably do, I scrape my hair up after work and I wear my lounge pants that could do with a wash. That rare face photo on Instagram? Yeah, I thought I was having a good day. That one good day out of many. Because I’m just your typical normal girl having the same kinda feelings and emotions as you.
Being told our house is perfect makes me happy. It truly does. But on the other hand it can also make me incredibly sad that people believe we live in this magical place. Of course, I am forever grateful that I have a mortgage to pay and a roof over my head at 25, but life isn’t always what it seems. And I think it’s so easy for all of us (us included!) to forget that, and believe that somebody with clean crisp photos doing things every single day is living the dream. Have you ever seen a picture of our kitchen sink? The garden? The answer is no, because there’s dishes piling up alongside the sink, and there’s overgrown weeds building up throughout the garden.
The photos of Little B and I? Sweet huh? Have you thought about it, that this photo shows only few minutes from the rest of that day. We may look happy and ‘oh so cute’, and chances are that we were having a happy moment. But I can bet your bottom dollar that at some point in that day, we spent hours apart in different rooms. Doing what normal people do. Having alone time, because that’s totally what we do (I do not understand why he does not like Catfish TV!) .
We’re happy together, we are. And we have a nice time doing fun things, but like any relationship, we have our down times. Would it shock you if I told you that two years ago we nearly broke up? That as we packed up one house, we were ready to part? Or that I questioned marrying him last week because he brought me sundried tomato cous cous when he knows I really dislike cous cous? Or does it make you laugh? And relate-able? Cause that’s exactly what we’re like even if we don’t second think about photographing ourselves mid argument over who’s turn it is to hang the washing up (I hate that chore!)
I’ll admit it, we don’t have a hard life. We are truly lucky that we both have loving parents who are always there for us and a close group of friends but I’m not going to rule everything good that we have (apart from Little R – he deserves a heads up!) because we don’t need to prove it to anyone. But regardless of everything you have, or do not have, it does not set each and everyone of us apart from another. Just like the rest of the world, we all find our feet, we all work hard for our future, and we all love, laugh and cry. We all have our issues and insecurities – hell, that time I sit there eating ice cream and raving about B&J? Chances are I’m feeling pretty rubbish about those thighs of mine. Little B always laughing it off that he wears his beanie everywhere? Man, he’s secretly mortified that he’s lost his hair so young.
We know that we will never be a ‘Kooples couple’ and we know that we will never be rich. But what we do know, is that we will just be us. We will live our life, like everybody else and we will continue to make the best out of everything that life throws at us. So we’re sorry if we only photograph our good parts, but I think those snot stained lounge pants are really left best for just us two. Oh and visitors.
We live in a beautiful world, all of us and we need to try and remember that. Perfect is only a word, and only has the meaning of what you make it.