Life

I'm not sure why I feel the need to write this post, I guess I don't, but it's almost following on from my previous Perfect V Reality. We have nothing to defend, yet I feel that it's time I put my personal opinion across based around the internet and that darn word, perfect.
When I started Little Winter, I was sure to point out in my first post that we aren't perfect, we're just normal people who do normal things. We argue about the washing pile, we pick our noses like kids and we certainly don't live a lavish lifestyle. I mean, it's incredibly lovely and humble that people think that we live in a beautiful world because 'our kitchen is perfect', but in reality, we are just like you and the rest of the world. It's so easy for us all to take things for granted and although we haven't lived a tough life compared to others, we too have suffered and lost only what we can deem the hardest we know. And with these heartaches and sadness, it has taught us to appreciate the simplest things. Those things that are standing right in front of us, so easily forgotten, yet things that really do make the world go round. I'd like to think that we don't always portray the perfect life on our blog, Twitter, Instagram and in fact, show the beauty of those simple things that we take for granted. I'd like to think that you can see we're just your average Joe's and don't go out every weekend with hoards of friends, we don't lay in swamps of money and we don't think we've got the best life ever. We just make our average life the best it can be.
I'm not a 'pretty' girl, I never have been nor will I ever. And I'm also not one of those hot girls, but I am a girl. I have my flaws and insecurities just like everyone else. The images that you see of me on my blog are few and far inbetween. You don't see my face all the time, because reality is that I don't look like that all the time. I do what you probably do, I scrape my hair up after work and I wear my lounge pants that could do with a wash. That rare face photo on Instagram? Yeah, I thought I was having a good day. That one good day out of many. Because I'm just your typical normal girl having the same kinda feelings and emotions as you.
Being told our house is perfect makes me happy. It truly does. But on the other hand it can also make me incredibly sad that people believe we live in this magical place. Of course, I am forever grateful that I have a mortgage to pay and a roof over my head at 25, but life isn't always what it seems. And I think it's so easy for all of us (us included!) to forget that, and believe that somebody with clean crisp photos doing things every single day is living the dream. Have you ever seen a picture of our kitchen sink? The garden? The answer is no, because there's dishes piling up alongside the sink, and there's overgrown weeds building up throughout the garden. 
The photos of Little B and I? Sweet huh? Have you thought about it, that this photo shows only few minutes from the rest of that day. We may look happy and 'oh so cute', and chances are that we were having a happy moment. But I can bet your bottom dollar that at some point in that day, we spent hours apart in different rooms. Doing what normal people do. Having alone time, because that's totally what we do (I do not understand why he does not like Catfish TV!) .
We're happy together, we are. And we have a nice time doing fun things, but like any relationship, we have our down times. Would it shock you if I told you that two years ago we nearly broke up? That as we packed up one house, we were ready to part? Or that I questioned marrying him last week because he brought me sundried tomato cous cous when he knows I really dislike cous cous? Or does it make you laugh? And relate-able? Cause that's exactly what we're like even if we don't second think about photographing ourselves mid argument over who's turn it is to hang the washing up (I hate that chore!)
I'll admit it, we don't have a hard life. We are truly lucky that we both have loving parents who are always there for us and a close group of friends but I'm not going to rule everything good that we have (apart from Little R - he deserves a heads up!) because we don't need to prove it to anyone. But regardless of everything you have, or do not have, it does not set each and everyone of us apart from another. Just like the rest of the world, we all find our feet, we all work hard for our future, and we all love, laugh and cry. We all have our issues and insecurities - hell, that time I sit there eating ice cream and raving about B&J? Chances are I'm feeling pretty rubbish about those thighs of mine. Little B always laughing it off that he wears his beanie everywhere? Man, he's secretly mortified that he's lost his hair so young.
We know that we will never be a 'Kooples couple' and we know that we will never be rich. But what we do know, is that we will just be us. We will live our life, like everybody else and we will continue to make the best out of everything that life throws at us. So we're sorry if we only photograph our good parts, but I think those snot stained lounge pants are really left best for just us two. Oh and visitors.
We live in a beautiful world, all of us and we need to try and remember that. Perfect is only a word, and only has the meaning of what you make it.
xo

32 comments

  1. Beautifully put :)

    Everyone's so quick to put their blinkers on and see only what the internet wants them to see, when in reality, if everyone had a quick look around - they'd probably find they had their own little slice of perfection too.

    Sam | Tiny Paint Pot xx

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  2. This is such a beautiful post and I agree with everything! It's so easy for people (including me) to think what they see on the internet about other people's lifes is just perfection - but in the end we're all human and all do similar things and it's just sad and useless to continue to complain about what we have not without seeing what we actually have!

    x Giada | Miel Café

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  3. Love this!

    Recently I've been struggling with the idea of 'perfection' til I realised its just a word not a state.

    You guys seem lovely and I wish nothing but the best and happiness for you. And I'm sure everyone can relate to how you feel at times!

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  4. This is an incredible post - thanks for sharing. It can be hard to see what other people 'have' and think little of what you have yourself but it's all about perspective. You guys do seem like a lovely couple though, arguments about cous cous and all.

    Katy xx
    whatkatydoes.weebly.com

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  5. This is a very well written post and it was a great read. Sometimes when you look at blogs or youtube you do envy people because they show a little bit of their life, that tiny bit which is wonderfull but people don't see it all and are very quick in making judgments.

    I would never say that you guys live a perfect life and I do like seeing things that make you happy. As long as you yourself are aware about what is reall then it does not matter what other thing. In a way, a reall person will know what is reality.

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  6. This is perfect Katy!! Honestly thank you so much for writing this! I feel like we're living in a time now where we can't do anything ordinary without sharing it on social media and it makes me sad to think people have to feel they must compare themselves to what others have. I think everyone needs to take what they see on the internet with a pinch of salt and not take it as gospel. One thing I will say tho what I love most about you and your blog and your Instagram is that you have the ability to take the ordinary tasks we do everyday and make them look beautiful and that's something really special. You help us see the beauty in the ordinary things so thank you for that Katy

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  7. Thank you for writing such an honest, real and relatable post. It definitely made me smile xxx

    x Maria x

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  8. This is a really great post Katy! So many people think that because we don't share the bad things it must meant here isn't any, or that we're "lying" or being dishonest. When maybe we just want a space to share happy and beautiful things. And why the hell shouldn't we? The world is a sad enough place without promoting negativity just for the sake of it. xx

    Little Miss Katy | Fun, Food & Fashion

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  9. Beautifuly written and very true post! Xx

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  10. This was such a great post. I hadn't even thought about reality vs perfection and how a blog can skew that because it's true, you don't post pics or write about the bad and the ugly, and when all you write about is the good, it can seem it's always good. At a wedding a couple of weeks ago I was totally shocked when several friends said I had a wonderful life and they were so jealous reading my blog, because the reality lately is that I have been chained to my computer writing a PhD thesis 90% of the time, but you bet I blogged about that fun 10% when I wasn't! I had not even considered how my own life was being perceived by my readers, but I am much more aware now. Considering being a bit more honest about the down times too, but then, do people really want to read that? Who knows, but I might give it a go!
    Thank you for all the things you do write and post, even if it isn't everything! :-) x

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  11. Great post, it's something I often think about when I read blogs and as a reader you have to understand that most posts are 'highlights', otherwise you'd go mad from comparing your life to theirs. Unfortunately, it needs reminding sometimes!
    x

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  12. I think this is such a powerful post. We never truly know what is happening in other peoples lives. And everyone has ups and downs, sometimes we just look at the ups..
    Segi
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    Segs Benedict

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  13. Aww this is a really lovely post, it is so easy to look at people's blogs/instagram pictures etc and assume their life, their house, their hair is perfect, but it's true, you only ever take photos when things are looking good! I like how honest it is, nobody has a 'perfect' life, there are always things going on behind the front, and me and my boy getting on 98% of the time, but there is still that 2% when things just aren't great!

    Absolutely loving your blog these days lady, I remember reading it when I first started blogging myself and it has grown so much...wish I could have dedicated the same amount of effort to my own! Good work, you should be proud xx

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  14. Just read the first post (how the hell did I miss it?!) and of course we are going to present all the best things about our life online. I used to party all the time and put a lot of effort into the way I look but I was lonely and blogging helped me with that. I wasn't going to broadcast that I liked blogging because I could chat with people whilst all my mates were studying, traveling or with boyfriends.
    Why would we post photos of piles of ironing? I never post photos when my acne has flared up or of an outfit that I think looks awful on me. I think you do a great job of presenting ordinary things like making a meal, going for a walk etc as something that should be cherished and enjoyed xx (when I first saw the photo I thought you were flicking the V, you aren't but it would have been funny )

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  15. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone Katie!! There is nothing wrong with filling your blog with beautiful pictures when your house looks it's best. I certainly don't come to a blog to see dirty dishes!! I see your blog as an escape and it's lovely to see the best snippets of 😢s life. I hope you never stop doing what your doing :) x

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  16. Lovely post! I hate the word perfect too! Really love this, it's so real and raw! Abi :)
    MyW0rldMyView

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  17. This is an amazing post, it's so easy these days to compare yourself to others through what you see on their social media and I do it all of the time. It can be just one post, one post out of someone's whole day yet we're so quick to assume that that person lives in a 'perfect' world because we've seen that one moment. It's so sad that people do get down over jealousy of other people because of a photo, but like you said you're just appreciating those little moments and that's what we should all do! x

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  18. Oh Katy you speak complete truth. Things aren't always perfect or easy in life and I know the two of you have had some really tough times over the last few years. The fact you look to capture and hold on to the good moments in your life is something I really admire in you. I know that for me, looking at those moments instead of the bad has made such a difference to my ability to cope and enjoy life because, like you say, if you don't do that then what else is there? This internet world is such an odd balancing act at times, isn't it? Sending you love
    xxx

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  19. Katy you are a beaut and I relate to this post oh so much. It made me smile also you have such a lovely writing style (if that's what you call it) it is really warming. YOU ROCK GURL!!!!!! xo

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  20. This was absolutely wonderful to read. Thank you!

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  21. Beautifully written. I can relate to this post so much. I think it is so easy to look at a lot of bloggers and think their lives are 'perfect', but we all choose to post what we want to choose and life is about capturing those special moments. x

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  22. Oh, this is such an honest and wonderfully written post. I don't think there's anything wrong at all with mostly showing the good parts of life online, but it is nice to see a post like this one once in a while too. Everyone has got their troubles and their bad days, but of course it's more fun to write about the happy and exciting stuff! And most of the time that's more fun to read. I don't really know where I'm going with this comment, but basically I just don't think you should feel the need to explain yourself. I love reading about the special moments of your life :) Your blog is absolutely lovely!

    xx Mimmi, Muted Mornings

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  23. Brilliantly written Katy, although you really don't have to explain yourself to anyone! You're one of my favourite bloggers because, like you say, you have had hard times too and your life isn't 'perfect' but the fact you don't choose to dwell on them on your blog is totally up to you. I get fed up seeing comments from people saying they're fed up of bloggers showing off their 'perfect lives' because 1) it's up to the blogger what they share with people they've never met over the internet & if they want to keep negatives to themselves then obviously that's their right! and 2) there's nothing wrong with focusing more on the happy moments because life is short and needs to be enjoyed. I like to think that in years to come when I'm old I'll look back on my blog and see the nice and funny memories rather than complaints about late buses and moody shop staff! x

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  24. Well said, that. Just try to make your life as good as it can be and that's enough. Best philosophy in the world.

    Ohhellojo.blogspot.com

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  25. Incredible post!! And it's so true nobody is perfect!! Love this post!

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  26. Brilliant post, you're so right no one is perfect and everyone only puts the good bits out there, whether it's on a blog or facebook for your friends
    Lauren
    livinginaboxx

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  27. You really have a way with words. So beautiful. You're one of the first blogs I've come across and keep coming back to because you've made it so inviting & warm! xx

    Angela | The Sunday Chapter

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  28. Brilliantly written post, really struck a chord with me as I'm guilty of often being jealous of 'perfect' lives that bloggers portray. Thanks for the reality check - now just to take photos as beautiful as you both, so my life looks as "perfect" haha :)

    Aimee X
    dress-it-up-6.blogspot.co.uk

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  29. I loved this post, so so try and even though I know your never alone its nice to hear it from other sometimes. :) x

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