Perfect V Reality

You know when you read something, and then you notice it a bit more and it just starts to bug you that it doesn't go away? Yeah, well we have that.. All in the name of 'the perfect blog'.
We're not normally ones to make a big deal of things (trust us, we're always the first to scurry into the corner and hide!) but lately I've seen comments floating about Twitter and Blogger like 'getting fed up of seeing people making out their lives are perfect' and 'at least you're blog isn't so fake', and the world certainly doesn't revolve around us, but we felt we wanted to step in personally. For our own piece of mind.
When we changed this blog over to Little Winter, we mentioned that we weren't the 'perfect couple', just like any other couple. Like the rest of the world we have our ups and downs, and we bicker over who does the washing up, why my clothes are still sprawled over the floor and that Little B stays up too late sometimes, and when I last checked, that was pretty normal. Because we're just normal people. But we're not exactly going to be editing the photos of Little B having a strop in the bedroom because I managed to get my own way again, or Instagram the shot where I'm huddled on the sofa in my ugliest pyjama's having a cry over probably nothing important, because let's face it.. Who even wants to see that? And just like the other hundreds and thousands of bloggers, we started Little Winter for a place to write and share our daily musings and brightly printed wardrobe full of fun and happiness and drinking out of jam jars. Because that's what we actually do, even if it is only for one day a week.
You see, Little B and I actually don't see each other all that much. At first glance, you'd think we spend our days having pancake breakfasts, followed by a walk in the countryside and then finished up with a cinema date and as much of the Tesco sweet isle we could fit into a bag, however in reality we only spend one day a week together. And the rest of my evenings are spent alone, with Little R whilst Little B works his long hours of 8am right through to 11pm. And of course, I wait up for him, in the hope of actually spending 5 minutes with the person I love. So you can imagine the tiredness in this household. I'm going to be honest, it isn't easy. But we make it work, and that's why our Monday's are always spent in the best way possible (with a few outfit shots thrown in for good measure!)
I guess we can all put our hands up and admit to getting slight pangs of jealousy, when you see that girl with the perfect hair ALL the time, or the most amazing parties thrown, but hey, let's all remember that the girl with the perfect hair? She probably doesn't even head outside when her hairs not looking as sleek as usual. And the most amazing parties? We can have them too, but we're just having too much fun to photograph them! So next time you're over here having a read, and wondering why you're coco pops don't look as good as ours, that's because you've not left yours to get soggy! We all have those feeling sorry for ourselves moments, and that's OK, and we all have days where we don't feel like getting dressed, which are fine too. And so do us Little's, but we just accidentally, on purpose forget to photograph those moments.

30 comments

  1. This is such a lovely post and you look really nice! I get caught up in this a lot, my life isn't particularly 'cool' or 'exciting' and I'm happy with how it is but every now and again I see the 'perfect' life blogged straight in front of me. xo

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  2. very well said katy - thank you! if i was closer, i'd love to bring my lil ozzie round for tea and we could have a cat play date one evening <3 must be hard without B around most evenings ox

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  3. Love this post


    That's all!

    Ruth - Room31 x

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  4. I completely agree with this post, and I think that almost all bloggers make their life look more idealistic than it is, which isn't a bad thing in my eyes!

    I like to read blogs to have a nosey into peoples lives (aswell as other reasons - I'm not a creep!) and whilst I do enjoy reading the honest, personal posts which hide nothing, I also like to get lost in a page of perfectly edited photos, beautifully iced cupcakes, adorable cats and drinks in jam jars. It's like watching a dreamy movie or reading a book, it doesn't have to be 100% real life to enjoy it. These things inspire me to do nice things myself and blog posts have cheered me up more times than I can count!

    Your blog definitely does give off the 'perfect' vibe, and your photos are always so pretty but that's what a love about Little Winter!

    xx

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  5. Me and my boyfriend started a blog a few months ago about our lives and him caring for me whilst i have severe m.e and we absolutely LOVE your blog. Its inspirational for us as a couple with a blog. We think its awesome that you both do outfit posts. My boyfriend (he's my carer) writes the blog as i am too ill but as a team you're really like us, and we even have our own little family of animals :D
    Smiles all round, why would anyone share the rubbish bits?! xx

    Memichaelandme.blogspot.co.uk

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  6. I definitely agree with this post, I think your blog is so lovely and while I do like seeing all of your photo's from days out and nights in I like that you keep some things personal, It's your lives, your relationship and your blog so it's up to you what you choose to share with us.

    Bloggings a very personal thing and I think what a lot of people don't get is that a lot of bloggers, like yourselves, like to put their best foot forward and keep their blog a positive place, I know I do. I spend a lot of time in joggers waiting for my boyfriend to get home from work too and it's nothing exciting, I probably wouldn't blog about it but I know I would on that one day a week when I see him all day and we do something special. I'd personally rather share the positive things in my life than the negative but each to their own and I do know that some people prefer to use their blog to vent.
    I'll stop venting on yours now :)
    Rosalie x
    RosalieJayne

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  7. This is lovely and so real! And hey, who would want to follow a blog that showcases everything that's gone wrong and how rubbish things are all the time? that's not nice to look at and we'd all end up feeling more depressed than when we get caught up thinking why is our life not so damn good. I find you and your blog incredibly refreshing, it's like it's perfect and pretty but realistic at the same time xx

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  8. I've seen a few of those comments recently and they do bug me because, like you say, why would we blog about the shitty stuff? On Friday I fell out with my other half for buying his niece a pair of trainers.... NOBODY needs to read about that. (Sorry I just put you through it). He also works nights so we're in the same boat as you guys and I think it's great that you make the most of the time you do get together. Why shouldn't you? Keep the fairy lights a coming! x

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  9. AMAZING!!! Fair bloody play guys!
    It makes me so angry when people say things like this, Why on earth as you said are you going to include on your blog the moments when your huddled up upset over something, your just not!

    I absolutely love what you guys are doing with this blog and it's going GREAT!! Ignore those stupid individuals who have fuck all better to do with their time and carry on being you guys!! A bunch of balloon heads the lot of them! (argh angry sian!)

    xxx

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  10. Well said :) No one is going to blog about the bad and ugly stuff as well no one is going to read it really!

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  11. I love this post and everything you say is so true. I think every blogger shows an edited version of their life to some extent because, let's face it, how many people would want to share a photo of themselves on a down day when they're looking/feeling like crap?? I've always thought Little Winter comes across as very real and 'normal' - definitely not fake or phony! xx

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  12. SO TRUE! We all experience the unhappy, stressful, sad etc side of life but life is just too darn short to constantly document that. Life is about enjoying and remembering the happiest and best(set) of times with the people we love and that is what we all want to see. We decorate our own little spaces full of things that put a huge smile on our face and makes us feel all warm and fuzzy inside so I agree, there is absolutely nothing wrong with sharing that with the rest of the blogging world! x

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  13. Ah the Littles, such babes. Life is far too short to document the parts of our lives that don't bear the sweeter memories. I personally would love my blog to be somewhere that people can go to after a difficult day and have a few minutes of escapism time ya know? Little Winter is always my first port of call when things are tuff round my end! xxxx

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  14. I love how honest this post is! You guys are such dears xx

    http://mypalaceofalice.blogspot.co.uk/

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  15. Interesting. I'm seeing a few bloggers saying this just today, but I missed the posts calling people fake. I am glafd however, just to hear people say they have these unseen bad days. We should know it, but sometimes it helps for people to be honest. I've been quite depressed lately and some days bloggers and inspiring and some days they are only making things worse when they seems to be so amazing, nice houses, clothes, hair, careers, skills all of it. We know it's not all like that, and I would never call it fake, but a gentle reminder than there's more to life than what gets instagrammed as it were is supportive. I liked what I read earlier though = don't compare your ourtakes to someone else's highlight real.

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  16. I REALLY REALLY REALLY LOVE THIS POST. ITS JUST PERFECT. And i also love the pic! So natural. xoxo

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  17. I really love this post, thank you so much! It's just perfect, and I always feel like you are being so honest and so down-to-earth, and it's why I love your blog so much! I hope everybody starts to realise that there isn't really a "perfect" anything, it's just perception, you've made me see what I guess I already knew! x
    from-the-art.blogspot.com

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  18. So well put! I never get the criticism of blogs being 'too perfect'. They are our escape, that others end up reading. In my mind, these blogs of ours are our space to be positive and remind ourselves of all the good things going on. I find this edited world helps me to put all those silly niggles I get each day into perspective- my life is good and I have plenty to be grateful for even if I feel tired or fed up or lonesome. It reminds me I have lovely people in my life, live in a wonderful place and have lots of beautiful things. And I wish that positivity was what was taken from it, rather than negativity. There seems to be alot of these thoughts swilling around the interwebs right now and I hope it sepps into people's minds. Big love to you and Little B. You're doing it right, keep on making the most of what life throws at you xxx

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  19. Very well said! No one shows on their blog what goes on behind the scenes because no one wants to read that! Everyone wants to read about the fun, happy, perfect moments in peoples lives because while reading about them we can all escape into them with you which is lovely :)
    We all need the tough times to remind us how good the good times are, so although you two may not see much of each other it is so nice that you can have that one day a week that reminds you how good things can be :) xx

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  20. Oh this is such a lovely post,so true and very well said! such a lovely picture too

    Julia x

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  21. Great post, I think every blogger must admit to posting about the positive and leaving out the negative.. if we all posted about the bad things and feelings in our lives our blogs wouldn't be very nice places! I see blogs as more escapism than realism :)

    xx
    http://fairygobmother.blogspot.co.uk/

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  22. I love this post, last night when I read it I was thinking of all the things I wanted to say in the comment....it will come back to me.
    I think you're 100% right, and for me, jealousy fuels a lot of "hate" and sadness for me, I honestly know that. Recently, and since a chat with you a month ago or so, I have been trying to let things pass me by more, but I do know I get jealous, and usually about silly things! I still however believe there are people and blogs out there, that like to gloat and make out their life is just jolly perfect. With yours, this is not the case, and like mine, I just want my blog and blogging life to look and be the best it can be. From your blog I feel inspired and I feel a huge sense of warmth and love, and that comes across with the Little's, and your relationship with them all.

    I think you can get silly about blogging, and we just all need to remember it's blogging. There are much more important and serious thins going on, and I think do what makes you happy. This makes me happy, and I'm doing it.
    I think it takes away from my "real life" but some times it does this in a good sense. This last Weekend, I could have cried daily because of my friends, and because I feel so stuck and don't now what to do. But I've tried to put my energy into other things, and my blog is a huge one of them. It makes me feel how lucky I am to have met some gorgeous girls, and you being one of them,as a friend is so lovely to know!

    I think the majority of lifestyle blogs want their blogs to be real life, I've always said it's the pretty things in my life & the adventures I have with my canine friends & Sam....so it doesn't need to be everything, just the pretty things ;)

    PERFECT blog post <3
    Stephanie

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  23. This is such a great post.

    I personally love blogs that focus on the more 'perfect' parts of their life, rather than making me jealous that actually inspire me and make me happy. If blogs focused on the miserable things reading them would just make me feel down in the dumps.

    Ignore the haters and keep inspiring and cheering up the majority of us, Haters are gonna hate and all that! x

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  24. Loved reading this :)

    http://laurenslittleblogs.blogspot.co.uk/
    xx

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  25. An ex of mine (it's relevant, I promise) once told me that somebody's imperfections were what made them special. It's a bit clique but there you go. This is a really good post Katy, and too many people don't acknowledge that their lives aren't perfect - so that makes you just that little bit braver. It's more human at the end of the day, nobody wants to write about the rubbish or dull stuff haha! I sit in traffic jams for 3 hours of my day, no-one wants to hear about that! ♥ Claire at Jazzpad

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  26. I don't get why people get at bloggers for only sharing the nice bits of life. We all do that all the time. We pick the photos where we look nice to put on Facebook, not the one taken from a dodgy angle that gives us four chins. We share the nights out, and the adventures, not the days where you eat Pringles and watch Netflix all day. It's just more interesting to share the nice, exciting bits. Of course it is!

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  27. Loved reading this but sorry you had to right it, it's quite sad that people always have to be negative. I love your blog and I wanna drink out of jam jars too! Haha keep doing what your doing littles! Xx

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  28. This is too true. I think people forget that for some of us a blog is a way of forgetting about the crap in their lives and making the most of the good stuff. I sometimes do moan about my life in my posts (guilty of that one!). But I know people don't want to read that, so I make light of it in my writing. That in turn actually helps me to laugh things off! But as I say, I know some people don't like that. Shows that us bloggers can never 'get it right' according to some.

    We're always either too boring, too in your face, too moany, too happy, too fake or too real. At the end of the day blogs are different and we like blogs for different reasons. People should stop going on about what they dislike and praise what they like about blogs.

    I love a blog with a good old personality and that's why I love Little Winter. You go chaps.

    xx

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  29. I love this, and I think you've hit the nail on the head. Most other days I'm sat in my PJ's with frizzy knotted hair and my eyes running constantly from hay fever. Now, we all have days like this, surely? But I'm not gonna post up those pictures just because thats not how I would best like to paint myself!

    I think theres two sizes to this, a blog where you can paint your life as perfect as you wish, AND those who know you in real life, the family and the friends and colleagues. Who all think that I'm confident, love myself and love having my picture taken. It drives me mad. Fact is, I hate being the centre of attention, I daren't go to any blogger meets because I'm terrified of being looked at and judged, and I'm only okay with my picture being taken because its my boyfriend doing it and its taken two years. The first time he insisted on taking me in the studio I stood there like a wooden spoon. People assume I love myself because I post a lot of selfies. No, I just spent an hour on my make up and the rest of the week I've looked like a plum in PJ's, so look at things with a little perspective, aye?

    Love you lots and lots for this post!

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