We won't stop till it's over

Dress: New Look. Blouse: Primark. Belt: Glamorous. Shoes: c/o So You Shoes

Oh, here she comes, slowly rolling back down the hill to blog again. Yes I am here. Where did I go maybe you ask? (Probably not!) Basically, I came down with that thing us women sometimes get. The one where we don't like what we see. So much so, that the thought of taking photos of myself revolted me (I tried it one night this week.. It ended in tears) And so I diagnosed myself last week with 'I don't like what I see in the mirror' syndrome. Sometimes I've had it before, but this week I really got it. I even stopped reading blogs ,because I was comparing myself to everybody. Picking faults at everything about myself, and wanting to be and dress like all you other bloggers. It's weird. I appreciate my body, I'm not big, I'm not small and yes I've been called just the right size at times, which is lovely, and I really do appreciate every comment and compliment... However as women, we only ever listen to ourselves.
I think it's hard as a blogger, and that's why it got to me more than I've ever felt like before in the past. There  seems to be this pressure to look a certain way as a blogger, pull a certain pose, make your photos look the best they can, and have this outfit that is above and beyond. And it just made me start hating the smallest of things about me. I mean seriously, who even cares about the size of my ears??!! (for your information.. I have small ears, but that's the point I'm trying to make!)
It takes time, for us to love our bodies, but we can get there. If I'm being honest, right now I'm still looking in that mirror unsure of everything, and I am trying my hardest to take compliments and actually listen to them, and that's why today I decided to get in the garden and snap away. Because I actually quite liked what I saw.
I gave myself a pep talk last night. I said that I will not compare myself to everybody else, because at the end of the day, that's what makes us all so different. So what if I want someone's beautiful hair or so and so's smaller thighs, maybe somebody want's my boobs or even fingernails? But we're never gonna get them. And with that, I'm going to just accept it.
I have my wobbly bits and my lumpy bits. But I am Katy. No one else.

63 comments

  1. And Katy is absolutely beautiful. Xxxxx

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  2. Everyone has days/weeks like that, it's so completely normal but you are beautiful Katy! Especially in this very pretty dress, the collar is so cute

    Julia x

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  3. Yayy so happy you're back to blogging katy, it's hard not to compare ourselves with others but as everyone keeps saying - you're gorgeous! So it's gotta mean it's true! ;) loving the dress x

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  4. I needed this thanks a lot for this post! x

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  5. love this dress! effortless glamour!

    lovefayexoxo.blogspot.co.uk

    LoveFayexoxo

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  6. I like fashion blogs because it goes off everyone's different styles. Don't put yourself down because you don't look like another blogger, because your style is awesome! Xo

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  7. Katy, you're gorgeous and don't ever let yourself think differently!

    islaay.com
    xx

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  8. This is such a refreshingly honest post, I'm sure most of us get this feeling once in a while, and I think there's a lot of pressure on bloggers who feel the need to look a certain way, which is of course majorly self-inflicted, as one of the best things about reading other blogs is seeing how someone of a different style & shape wears certain items.
    I've had body dysmorphia for a few years now and whilst it did put me off blogging a little at first, I think the fact that there's such a variety of shapes and sizes in the Blogosphere makes is what makes it so compelling!

    For what it's worth, though, you look gorgeous, and I loooveee the way you've style the dress :) xx

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  9. i love the honesty in this. i hardly ever post photos with my face in as i dont much like it, and i will even crop the photos to show the outfit without me in it. its nice to know others feel this way too, you look gorge so you dont need to worry :) also- love the shoes :)

    allaboutbethan.blogspot.co.uk

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  10. You look great. You dress is so pretty. I would like to invite you to my blog, come to visit it when you have time :)

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  11. Girl, you look fiiiine (trying to pull that off, but failing...). The way I see it, life's too short to compare yourself to others and what not, because someone is always happy with less than what I have! I know it's not that easy at all and naturally everyone has their down days/weeks/whatever, but that's okay. You are GOOD ENOUGH Katy, I promise.
    And I am always right, so, yeah...

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  12. Beautiful dress, your hair always looks so pretty it drives me and my frizzy mane nuts! So much love this post, it's probably EXACTLY the little boost a lot of ladies needed, particularly in the world of blogging xxx

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  13. I can't really say I empathise with how you feel but because I've been brought up to accept the good with the bad I guess and being African its a good thing to be curvy etc
    All I can say is what I always there will only ever be one you so you might as well be the best you possible instead of comparing yourself to anyone else.
    Everyone has something they don't like.
    When it comes to confidence fake it till you make it bub

    I'll still perv on you lol xx

    NRC ♥

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  14. Gorgeous dress, you look lovely! xo

    http://prettypetticoats.blogspot.co.uk/

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  15. There are things I would like to change about myself but then I think to myself it doesn't matter - like you said it's the little things that make us all different.

    My next door neighbour got diagnosed with cancer when she was 21 and has been given a few years to live, since then I've sort of thought there are so much more worse things that can happen to you than having say a bump on your nose (which is what got me down for years). It's about who you are, not what you look like.

    You're a smashing gal with beauty also! Keep smiling! :)

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  16. you are beautiful as you are :)

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  17. You look gorgeous in these photos (as always!) I love your hair :) xx

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  18. And your absolutely stunning, god i wish i looked like you!.. nobody's perfect, just remember that.

    You are beautiful XO

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  19. Everyone has those days! But Katy never forget you are beautiful, just like this dress is beautiful on you! xx

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  20. Aww beautiful outfit :) good to see you back, looking fab as always! Everybody has those days, I'm certainly guilty of that... Its refreshing to hear that even lovely ladies like you feel the same about themselves when they look in the mirror sometimes!
    Kaz x
    sunshine--days.blogspot.co.uk

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  21. I'm glad you gave yourself your little pep talk last night, you are so pretty. It's hard to love yourself, we are all like that but you are so pretty. I hope you see the real you looking at you in the mirror lots!
    xx

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  22. Katy you're saying you compare yourself to other bloggers and want to be them - you are one of those bloggers I compare myself to and wish I could be!
    You're gorgeous, so ridiculously pretty! And you have amazing hair, and I think you do have exactly the right size figure!
    You also come across on your blog/twitter as one of the nicest, funniest and most genuine girls on blogosphere - so do listen to the compliments and use them to build yourself up, because, as much as we all hate on ourselves sometimes, no one deserves to feel that low, and especially not someone as stunning inside and out as you!

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  23. Katy ba-batt (what?!), you are beautiful. And not just on the outside - on the inside too. So many bloggers show no personality or wit whatsoever. I'd rather be like you: funny and smart and kind, as to someone who is a rock wrapped in designer clothes.

    SIDEWALKCATWALKS.com

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  24. Katy ba-baty I meant, even my failed cleverness failed.

    SIDEWALKCATWALKS.com

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  25. ahhh love I know what you mean! I think it's a natural thing that girls can't help but do, but you gotta remember that you are one gorgeous lady with a fab little figure! I'm constantly wishing I had a pretty smile like you (hate my teeth haha) so we all do it :) x

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  26. YOU, are beautiful no matter what! You should never ever think like that again and I love the fact you gave yourself a lovely pep talk and cheered yourself up and thought the way you did, I do feel low sometimes. I think I have a ridiculously small torso and stupidly long legs, though I am VERY short... HMM... But! I accept that's the way I am and reading this has made me feel better :)
    Pep talk for all us bloggers!

    CAT xo
    whatcatsays.blogspot.co.uk

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  27. This is a fantastic post. We're all so damn hard on ourselves! You, Katy, are a beautiful lady and I'm so glad to see you posting again. You deserve to feel absolutely fabulous (ooh, accidental nod to my main gal Patsy there) about yourself because that's what you are - gorgeous, lovely, hilarious and all round excellent!

    Emily Wears Things
    xx

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  28. Love this outfit! I think every single female ever suffers with that from time to time. Very glad to see you're back and looking absolutely stunning :) xx

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  29. WHY CAN'T I TAN LIKE THIS, you've got such a gorgeous tan, and this is a beautiful dress, you rock the midi! :) i wholeheartedly agree with everything you say here, it is really hard as a blogger to not compare yourself with other girls, and what i find even harder, is to look at posts on my blog and not pick faults with every single photo, which is kind of sad! but yeah, i think reading lovely comments (yours NEVER fail to make me smile ;) and reading posts like this really help :) you beaut!xo

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  30. Oh Katy, reading this breaks my heart a little because it's something that every girl can relate to, but please try not to let it get you down! I know how hard that is (trust me) but you are a total beauty, and more importantly, you dress fantastically and you write so personably and well, hence you being loved and adored far and wide across the internets!
    Off on a tangent, it just struck me looking at these pics how quickly your hair is growing, lucky lady!
    Thanks for your comment on my blog today, it really made me smile, as did your tweets!

    Mona x

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  31. are they temper trap lyrics i spy?;) you look stunning! xxx

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  32. I really like your dress <3

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  33. A spoonful of sugar makes the medicine go down, the medicine go down , the medicine go down..... ok ok, I don't know what the line is before the bit I want to say... but the bit i'm looking for is 'perfect in every way' or maybe it's delightful in every way.... my memory at this time fails me.

    but yes, you are perfect in every way at being the katy i love.
    i'm a bit backwards at coming forwards i know
    i'd quite like your toenails if you'd take my mahusive boulder holders ( aka my breasticles) off my hands?

    LOVE YA LIKE A DOG LOVES HIS BONE

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  34. Thank god you are Katie & no one else! Looking awesome in that there midi by the way :)
    (I want your hair)
    xxx

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  35. I feel exactly the same at the moment, it's so easy to compare yourself to everyone else. So glad you did this post. I'm definitely a fellow sufferer of 'I don't like what I see in the mirror' syndrome from time to time! And lovely outfit too!xxx

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  36. Yazooo, I'm so happy to see you're back little cupcake, and looking beautiful as ever. I think you just have to remember that everyone only includes their best photos, if everyone did a post full of outtakes I'm sure we wouldn't be sat here feeling half as bad about ourselves! But seriously, you look amazing, dress amazing, and write better than anyone in the whole wide world, so don't be hard on yourself xxx

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  37. We all have those moments, but I think you look lovely! x

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  38. You look gorgeous as you are - you wouldn't be Katy if you looked like any other blogger :)
    Although I do know how you feel, it's just part of being a girl, unfortunately!
    xx

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  39. Katy I am so happy your back , but sad to hear you have been feeling down :( but I can completely relate to how you have been feeling, and specially as bloggers these feelings can come and go, quite quickly. But you just have to remember you are you and like you say comparing yourself is not going to make things any better, it is just torture really. Us girls what we put are heads through seriously we are too hard on are self sometimes ( i think, i am personally to myself anyways aha im such a worrier) But I think you are Gorgeous Katy and I adore your humorous ways and beautiful face, you always look so lovely and happy on your blog this is why we all love you <3 and this post especially you look beautiful :) Happy your back babycakes, keep your chin up and keep smiling pretty lady! love K x

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  40. Everyone else has said it so much better,

    so I'll just echo it all.

    xxx

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  41. Stop comparing yourself to others, everyones unique mrs and you my dear are a total beaut!! and you look amazing in this dress its gorgeous! xx

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  42. Such a great dress on you, you pretty wee thing :)

    Shyla x

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  43. You look so gorgeous Katy! Your hair and skin look so nice (is that weird?!) and I love the dress.
    I think blogging has made me sometimes insecure too - especially whenever I read blogs where people constantly have new clothes and they take daily outfit photos in which they always look pristine!
    As you said, women only listen to themselves about this but you are truly gorgeous xoxo

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  44. you look so pretty! I never thought I'd like midi-dresses but this one is beautifull!

    and aw, sometimes blogging is kinda hard, I agree with that when you photograph yourself and see yourself on screen you easily start comparing yourself with others.. but everyone has its beauty right! and your beautiful too! x

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  45. I admire your honesty Katy, as I know what you've just written I feel sometimes and judging by some of these comments.. we're not alone either! I think it takes a lot of guts to admit that you're not feeling totally confident and things. I've been asked, "oh how can you feel self conscious? you take photos of yourself and upload them on the Internet" and in some ways, it has helped my confidence especially when you receive lovely compliments from people but I myself find it difficult not to sit there and be too critical or I'd end up deleting it and never posting!
    You're not alone with comparing yourself to others either, like you say, we might sit there and think somebody's hair is amazing whereas they might hate it, and vice versa.
    On another note, you've certainly returned to blogging with a bang! I love your dress, you look beautiful. Chin up xx ps. sorry for the essay!

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  46. aww i'm so sorry you've been feeling down :( I can completely relate to what you said though, I think it is a real blogger thing! I'm constantly comparing myself to other bloggers, but I think everyone does that. Glad that your back and feeling better :) and I love this dress.. pretty lady.

    Jo. x

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  47. Oh this outfit is bloody LUSH! You look absolutely gorgeous :) <3

    Every time I think about our little leamington spa meet up I squeal with excitement aha! Can't wait to see you again :) xx

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  48. you look lovely here- is this the outfit you tweeted saying you were unsure whether to post? v glad you did if so.

    & in terms of 'i don't like what i see in the mirror' syndrome- lets just diagnose every girl in the world with it right now. everyone has days where you absolutely hate something about yourself and wish you could change it, wish you had 'her' hair, 'her' legs or 'her' wardrobe. but if we weren't this self critical we'd be in danger of being very stuck up!! it's our job to see imperfections in ourselves and have a little moan about it every now and again :) and its littlebums job to tell you to shut up cos your gorgeous aha.

    much loveeeee xxxxx

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  49. Loving that dress, such a perfect length on you! Those shoes are pretty hot also xx

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  50. What a gorgeous outfit you look so beautiful!
    dimplesdiaries
    x

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  51. We're our own worst critics. Sometimes it's hard to see past the flaws. It's easy to look in the mirror and focus on the bits you hate, and skip over the bits other people envy.
    I'm glad you're feeling a bit more positive.

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  52. oh katy I feel you, and understand what you wrote, often I compare myself with others bloggers and then just feel insecure about myself so I didnt blog for weeks and disappered from blogsphere. I haven't gotten the part which I love my body and all but I'm trying too :)
    I love the dress on you, and it has such cute collar, winner. You look beautiful xx

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  53. first of all katy, i love your outfit & need to go pick up that primark blouse pronto! secondly, you are gorgeous so i hope you never feel like this again. i find it really hard too sometimes. i'm not the most confident person and theres so much about myself that i wish were different. blogging totally amplifies it. i quite often hate every photo i've taken of myself even if theres 100 on my camera. i wish my photos were as good as some other's but theres only so much you can do with a horrible yellow wall & a huge tripod in a tiny living room. i wish i could wear the stuff that other people do but my huge belly, thighs and hips make most 'fashionable' things look horrid. but y'know blogging is supposed to be about you & the things you like & the things you wear, not the 1000s of other bloggers there are out there so its important to look past these things. self acception is definitely the best solution :) xx

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  54. aw I love this post Katy and you look beautiful!

    Em xx

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  55. What a brave post to put out there in public! Must have taken some b*lls. Ok, you're clearly female, but you'll know what I mean ;)

    >'I don't like what I see in the mirror' syndrome.<

    There's a more technical term for it (when it's a bothersome habit).....

    http://www.allaboutcounseling.com/library/dysmorphophobia-body-dysmorphic-disorder/
    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_dysmorphic_disorder

    It doesn't seem like you've got anything like so serious as that though! But please be careful with yourself, and don't hesitate to consult someone if ever you feel the slightest need.

    Also, you've got a lovely smile :)

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  56. You get to ride the roller coaster kitten, because as many lows as there are you remember the highs. I think blogging can have you ripping yourself apart and comparing, so you step back get the space you need. Than you come back with a bang, glad your back. I have BDD as the person mentions above, and I don't see myself the way others do. Sometimes I look in the mirror and want to throw up literally, so now I focus on other things about myself. Your so much more than just a pretty girl (yep I said it your pretty FACT!) you have such a warm soul you focus on that. Your a strong girl, and it's perfectly normal to feel shit sometimes but if it becomes a an everyday thing than talk to someone. I did, now I can have a almost normal life (I use to put my makeup on 15 times a day, taking off and trying to get it 'right'. I never thought I would ever be in a place (mentally) to just not care (well sometimes). Good on you for being open, I hate that people feel they can't be. Loaveage girly xxxx

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