One Hundred and Twenty Nine


I feel the need for a rant. I don't know why. Actually I do. Before I let the steam out of my ears, be aware, this is MY blog. So if you don't like what your about to read then PLEASE don't leave shit on my comments because this is where I write. You write on your blog what you like. And i'll write on mine. Thanks! (I'm not a bitch honest...!) but here goes..
After reading this post it really inspired me and got me thinking so much about blogging. I remember the first time I ever blogged, and knew very little about the world that I was about to join.. I thought only my parents and few friends were clicking my link on a weekly basis to see what stupid things I had done with my time (or not done with my time) and didn't feel like I had to worry about what I wrote. Fast forward six months where I now spend majority of my day thinking about what to wear, what I want to buy, who's added a new post and where are the latest bargains. I mean, let me break it down for you, I don't really worry to much about what I wear, however I AM a little conscious when I have an outfit post thinking "Oh, but I wore that last week..". Seriously, how many bloggers do you see on a monthly basis in the same outfit? But then, also.. how many people actually do wear clothes two days running? I raise my hand and know for a FACT that I live in the same items of clothing.. I try to rotate them at least ONCE a week, but I'm a girl. I wear things I like. A LOT.
I feel there is so much pressure, obviously I can choose not to give a shit and wear the same skirt every day for a week (you know what.. I might actually do that!) but in the back of my mind, I actually feel that I'd be frowned upon, looked down on.. And this is where I'm trying to get too (sorry I take forever to get to a point!) actually, on second thoughts.. I don't really know where i'm trying to get to! For me, to get in with 'the blogging crowd' you have to have all the latest high street trends, know other bloggers in the 'crowd' and get a gazillion followers. But what does all this mean? At the end of the day, I couldn't give a shit about whether I had 1 follower or 1500 followers. I blog, because I want to blog, because I enjoy having my photo taken (girls you ALL know you feel this too, or you wouldn't take them!), I love sharing what I wear, and I enjoy hearing what you think about my world. And if nobody read my blog, then so be it. I don't ask people too, nor do I beg for followers to look cool. THAT bothers me. Although I don't know WHY I'm letting it bother me..? It happens all the time!
Why do people comment you asking them to follow you? Urm, if I haven't checked your blog (and if you are lucky enough to even get a view after that comment) then it's likely that you won't get a follow. Following is for people who enjoy what you read/write. I'm not going to follow you because 'you follow me and I follow you'. This isn't a game. Nor is it a popularity contest. I didn't ask you to follow me.. I know this bothers other people too, and it's very common. But it's REALLY getting to me lately. Let's see how many people check out the photo on this post, and copy 'I love your blog. follow me'... I AM NOT A COMIC STRIP. I HAVE WORDS ON HERE TOO. So please, actually spend some time reading my blog before you decide to tell me to follow you. I will happily check your link if you leave it for me. I'm always on the lookout for new blogs to read, I really am. But at the end of the day, it's the people who actually enjoy reading my blog that choose to check back every day/week/month/year. And I'm pretty sure (actually, I know) that I won't be crying into my pillow if you never check back again..
Nonetheless the blogging world can be a beautiful thing. You can find so many gorgeous styles (and gorgeous ladies too) and ways to wear an item, that maybe you've struggled to pull off, and also meet bloggers like yourself. I've loved being able to interact with other bloggers, because we all share the same passion. And the opportunities for a blogger is fantastic. Think of all the media behind blogging now, it's phenomenal. We have things like The Cosmo Blog Awards, all the PR events, the giveaways and Blogger meets which help bloggers come together. I haven't met any bloggers face to face yet (damn you no money for The LDN xmasblogger meet) but I know that very soon I shall be setting dates aside in my diary to meet some of these talented ladies. True, real ladies, who enjoy what I enjoy. Blogging. 
This post wasn't written as though I am sad by my follower count or page views. I love my followers, and I'm pleased they actually enjoy what crap comes out my mouth (and wardrobe) and my page views suit me fine! At the end of the day like I said before, I blog because I want to. Because I enjoy it. I am fully aware that I might get critiscm from this post, but remember.. this is MY blog, where MY thoughts happen. And if you don't like it, you know where the X button is....


* This is in no way or means aimed at anyone in particular, however lately it's really been heating me up! And I know a fair few other bloggers feel the same way.

36 comments

  1. Well said!!! Glad you posted it, honesty is always the best policy and your views are spot on. Hopefully your post will help new bloggers like me, (and everyone who hasn't written their first post yet) realise that it isn't all cliques and who's got the most followers... There genuinely are lovely people out there, who write about what they want to, because they love it. Like you!!! xxx

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  2. So glad you posted it! Totally hit the nail on the head. If someone tells me to follow them I won't - I'm just awkward like that (apparently it's a Sagittarian trait if you believe in such things!). I really love so many things about blogging but some small things seem to discourage me sometimes - the cliques mostly. It reminds me of school!

    xx

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  3. Hi Katy,

    I know the feeling absolutely. A couple of years ago I maintained a blog and there seemed to be such a strong pressure to always be wearing 'new' and 'fashion forward' clothes/styles and always updating your blog to the point where you didnt do it because you WANTED to but felt the NEED that you HAD to. It was very sad and I became very disillusioned with it all. Especially now, when people our age feel like they have to make some sort of impression on the world as soon as they can. I'm a bit older now, and although at times I feel the niggling ickies, school keeps me insanely busy that I just CANNOT afford to spend some amount of time thinking about such SILLY feelings. I've never asked to be followed and I never follow back simply because I never want to fall in the trap of always trying to increase follower volumes. I always remind myself of my desired viewer bas which are people that sincerely want to read interesting and new(ish) content of mine. Its worked fairly well so far. I think it is important to have a life outside blogging and to REALLY pursue those goals. Do this for fun and to attain knowledge but if you're expecting something more you really are setting yourself up for disapointement unfortunately.

    Sorry for this MASSIVE wall of text. Your post really emoted with me.

    I hope you do continue though and you mark out a clear direction for yourself. You seem like one of the sincere ones.... we need people like you =)

    Eeli

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  4. Well said hun!
    Right now my pet peeve is
    "good post, check out my blog and maybe follow?? *leave link* "
    then you go and check and they don't even have the decency to follow yours?!?
    Chances are if someone leaves a nice wee comment mentioning something about the post I've said and leaves me a link, I am more likely to check it out. Also annoys me how cliquey this place can get :(
    Jen
    Xxx

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  5. This post had me laughing so hard, in a good way! I've been freaking out over the endless comments of "follow me back" or "lovely images! Please follow me!" which really confuse me. I mean, should that seriously entice me to "follow" them? I just don't get it.

    Also, don't worry about wearing labels. In fact, I prefer to see bloggers wear things I can afford... otherwise I get angry knowing I can never buy that thing they are wearing, even though it's technically available to me. LOL! (and I wear the same stuff over and over again to, which is another symptom of not being uber rich, lol!)

    I love how large the fur is!!! I am for the grey one... gorgeous.

    Aya of Strawberry Koi. Follow me back! (J/K)

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  6. Also, my internet connection is being funky, I don't know how that random "I love how large the fur is!!! I am for the grey one... gorgeous." got in there :(

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  7. nice blog like your picture... follow me??

    haha, 100% agree with you on everything, and most bloggers I've spoke to would agree with you too!! Don't think you'll get any stick for this post as your saying what most people think anyways! I think most people wear the same clothes over and over, but maybe only picture a 'new' outfit.. I don't know how some people do it though, they have like a long running blog and not one repeated outfit lol!

    Anyways... awesome post lovely :)

    The Deer Head

    x

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  8. I love your blog, follow me!
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    Only messing ;)
    I'm definitely one for wearing the same clothes over and over and over and to be honest I'm probably not even fashionable, but I still like blogging. Maybe we should start a revolution and post the same outfits day after day, or start a clothes swapping circle and wear each others outfits!
    Sooo yeah, great post, totally agree. xx

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  9. you completely read my mind in so many ways here. in many ways, im completely over blogging. but i cant bare to give it up!! humph. i am getting over stressing about not looking perfect for photos etc. but then at the same time who gives a shit? lol. anyway. yep! totally well said.

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  10. I definitely know the feeling. I try not to get hung up on who reads and who doesn't... not that it doesn't feel nice when people do leave nice comments and decide to follow. Hate the 'follow me and I'll follow you' comments to, like a bribe? I'd rather people followed and I could check out their blogs in my own time, I try to see who's followed me and who's commented anyway.... blah! Good post!

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  11. You're so right. I'm with you on all of the above (yes we are the same person Im sure!)
    I like to get out there and network, if I had more time and money I'd do more. If someone does say follow me/follow you.. I'm just a bit more edgy. I still will read and if I like follow but only if I do. There is a fine line.
    I'm gonna organise a bloggers meet next year in the midlands somewhere to rid us of our post xmas blues! So lost of meets ups :) xx

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  12. You are absolutely spot on. People get too obsessed with followers, it's not about that! If you're blogging simply to get followers then you'll never be satisfied, you'll always be comparing yourself to blogs with more followers. It's hobby and about enjoying blogging for what it is. I don't understand where people get the audacity to ask for followers? It's embarrassing! I'm MUCH more inclined to check out/follow someones blog who has actually taken the time to read what I've written and write a reply, rather than a copy and pasted "Good post check out my blog".

    Great post! x

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  13. I had a very, very brief stint doing outfit photos but I've decided it's not for me for the reasons you just listed - I was thinking and worrying about what to wear WAY too much! And while I'll be sticking to my usual ranty posts, I do actually love seeing what other girls are wearing - regardless of how many followers they have. If I like a blog, I'd never ignore or not follow them if they didn't have "enough" followers, or if they were not in with the "blogging crowd", or, God forbid, wore the same thing more than once!

    It's most definitely quality of the blog, not the quantity of followers or clothes for me. x

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  14. Everything you said makes complete sense. Definitely agree with the clothes thing as well... I mean everyone must have at least one item of clothing they've owned for more than 3 years and worn a gazillion times.
    P.s. I love reading your posts, so keep it up :)

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  15. SO glad you posted it! I was spazzing out last night because my internet died as soon as you posted this and I wanted to read it!!

    I'm being a kiss-arse now but I totally agree with everything you've said! Even if I really love someones blog I feel like I don't really want to follow them if they've asked...and I'll let you into a little secret...my last outfit post? Yeah I wore that two days in a row
    xx

    (I'm totally imagining you standing on a podium reading this this out by the way)

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  16. Well said my dear :) People should know the real meaning about Blogging! It's not like myspace where everyone was obsessed with the amount of friends they had! People should follow you because they enjoy what you write. I'm gutted I can't go to the london blog meet either soo poor :(.However me and Puja are organizing our own blog meeett :D lovelove xxx

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  17. Love your blog post sweetie :) so true! I feel exactly the same. I don't fit in 'the crowd' but who cares? :) I love your blog!!
    x x x

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  18. You speak a lot of sense, there is so much pressure to get followers & page views and comments & all that crap. I blog because I love to write and I think that my opinions (on the odd occasion) might help other people. It's so difficult, a lot of people wont give other bloggers the time of day, if you don't have a load of followers no one bothers reading, and those that do only do so because they want you to follow them! I want people to enjoy what I write! Gah, oh well, I guess if more take a stand like you in this post we might get some reality back here! Well said. xx

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  19. Great post! hate spammers with their "follow me" comments, I can only just handle "check out my competition" ones, because, well, I guess spreading the word does no harm - as long as they actually write a genuine comment first - if it only said check out my comp I wouldn't hesitate to delete it!!

    Serendipity Style Blog

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  20. Glad you posted this in the end... I agree! When blogging gets bitchy it's just no fun anymore. Just so you know though, I honestly do really enjoy reading your blog, I'm not just doing it for followers. The 'I'll follow you and you follow me' thing really annoys me, because if I don't like a blog, I won't follow it! I think you're so pretty and cool and I love your style, plus your posts are very entertaining - that's why I follow you xx

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  21. I'm glad you posted this! I never understand why people bother leaving comments just saying follow me I'll follow you back, like seriously what is the point in that?! They clearly haven't even bothered to read the post and it makes me less likely to want to visit their blog. I'd rather have a tiny number of followers who were actually interested in what I have to say rather than hundreds who are just following each other for the sake of it! x

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  22. I agree with tons of what you're saying. I try not to let the whole thing get to me, though. Sometimes I feel a little bummed when I see those comments "Follow me please!" and they aren't even following me. It's kind of weird. I don't have time to spend going over people's archives, usually, unless I simply want to, so what I do is follow and then if I don't enjoy their blog after a while I will unfollow (preen the herd, you know?). Most of the time that doesn't happen! I do dislike people who never respond to any comments at all (so unfriendly, total vanity case beyond the normal blogger, imho) but I understand not responding to all when a blog is huge. I personally don't use my twitter like ever so I hope nobody holds that against me. I'm sorry this comment is getting so long and I'm such a new reader here lol! I guess I just want to say I understand you, and I'm here for the community, not for status or freebies (neither of which I have, lol).

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  23. Well said my dear.
    Do us a favour.. follow me back? (Just kidding)
    But in all seriousness you do speak very wise words! I thoroughly enjoyed reading that and I thoroughly enjoy reading your blog.
    And as for wearing the same thing twice in one week, I am forever doing that! It's the way forward :D x

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  24. Oh, I forgot to mention I am a beauty blogger, not a fashion blogger, so I get away with re-wearing clothes allll the time lol! Wish I could claim it's cheaper, but it isn't, I spend so much money playing with makeup!

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  25. 150% agree. It really frustrates me when people leave the whole 'oh I'm following you now, come do the same!' spiel at the end of a comment. It is obvious that the only reason they are bothering to type in this box is to get more traffic to their own sight. It's extreeeeemely annoying when people don't even take the time to appreciate your outfits/ words!

    SIDEWALKCATWALKS.com

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  26. Awesome post. I blog because I enjoy it. I have like 9 followers but I don't care lol. WHO CARES!! We should read and follow blogs because we enjoy it, not a popularity contest. I enjoy your honesty & read ur blog daily because no one else has the balls to say what you do. lol <3

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  27. I'm so super glad I came across your blog because you are honestly one of my favourite bloggers!

    Lauren
    http://tasteslikelove.blogspot.com

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  28. Its so true I repeat items alot. Theres one particular skirt that i wear at least once a week and i despise follow me follow you comments so insincere and amount of followers isn't everything

    great post!

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  29. Follow me...? I'll follow you back..?!

    ... my faint hearted attempt at a joke :) glad you posted this made an interesting read whilst sat eating a sandwich at my desk at work aha xx

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  30. Hi Katy, thanks for your extremely nice comment on my blog! No worries if you don't want to follow a beauty blog, I definitely don't think it's rude at all. How boring if people feel obligated to follow blogs that aren't the topic they're interested in! My blog roll, too, is what I'm interested in... not necessarily my readers. I've often considered whether I should only put beauty blogs I follow there, but I like what I like and for me blogging is all about sharing things you like; of course I don't expect my followers to adore every post I do or every blog I recommend, but I'm still going to recommend :)

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  31. Hey - you met me, if only for two seconds!
    :P
    Great post, Katy!

    It definitely needed to be said, and you've hit the nail on the head. It is the quality, not the quantity that matters - some people will never realise that though.

    xo

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  32. Great post! I have nothing to add. I love to see bloggers post about why they blog and how they feel about it.. because sometime I'm not sure why I do myself! All I know is that I enjoy it and I'll keep blogging until I don't enjoy it anymore.
    Also, totally agree with the annoying "follow me and I'll follow you back".. but it must work for some people! Sometimes I do check out the links and it's usually a totally uninspiring blog with about 1000 more followers that I will ever have :D

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  33. take a look at my Nov most wanted post's comment section.. :| aha.

    x

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  34. LOVE everything you've said here, and completely agree. Does the 'follow you/follow me' thing even work?! It just seems pretty darn rude! And anyway, wouldn't you want your followers to be people that genuinely like your posts, rather than a bunch of folk you've accosted into following you?x

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  35. I couldn't agree more. I have seen quite a few people popping up on my blog recently just basically asking me to follow them and that puts me off right away. I don't even bother looking at peoples blogs if they do that now.
    Thank you for getting this message out there, I know it's not easy but you worded it perfectly :) x

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